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I’ve heard several times from people with significant time lengths of sobriety that its not a good idea to get into a relationship the first year of sobriety. It piggy backs off the don’t make any major life changes in early recovery, like change jobs, move to a different state, or leave your loved one, and getting into a relationship would fall under that category of a major life change. First of all, we alcoholics don’t have much to contribute on an emotional level to a relationship in early sobriety, but what if this relationship goes wrong and we end up in a desperate situation where we are eager to make the pain disappear and a drink seems like not a bad option at the time.
The main issue is that this first year of sobriety should be about self exploration with the focus on yourself and not a different person.
6 ways to be successful in dating while in recovery. These came from a great article called 6 Tips for Dating in Recovery by Pro Talk.
- Don’t stop your recovery
- Be honest about your recovery and fast
- Have at least 6 months to 1 year of sobriety
- Take it slow
- Understand your priorities and sobriety comes first
- Don’t date someone that could rock your routine
Also in this episode I interview Anthony Alvarado, with nearly 3 years of sobriety, who is a man on a mission aiming to eliminate the stigmas associated with addiction and people in recovery. Anthony is a founder of Rise Together and has spoken to over 70,000 students!
Got married with in my first two years, it wasn’t. Easy but now 25 yrs later it was worth it.17 yrs without drink or drugs25. No booze at all. Btw my wife was the first sober girl I been with.thank God and AA