021: 10 Ways to meet new friends in sobriety

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Here are the 10 ways to meet new friends in sobriety that Paul discusses in this podcast episode

1. Contacts in your phone
   1. Believe it or not, that new friend or group of friends is probably already in your phone.
2. In a social setting. Did I just mention the bar?
   1. The majority of people in a bar are normal drinkers and they won’t get behind the wheel drunk
   2. Getting completely dunk in bars is not cool.
3. Meetups. Use the internet to find sober friends
   1. Sober Meet Ups
   2. Denver Meets up Besides Bars
4. Join a 12 step program
5. Volunteer
   1. Alcoholics are selfish and this will help us become less selfish
6. Exercise in a group setting
   1. Take a spinning class
   2. 5k or 10k
7. Take a chance
   1. Open up your community’s calendar and see what there is to offer.
8. Be patient
   1. I went to school for over 15 years and ended up with a handful of close friends
   2. It may seem like spring will never come, but one day snow will melt. Your phone will ring from a person you have been trying to cultivate a new healthy sober relationship with
9. Social Sport leagues –Underdogseattle
   1. Get on a co-ed softball or flag football team
   2. Be careful because some of these may beer leagues, but try to find a league that encourages fun as opposed to competition. Leagues where costumes are required. People who are too worried about drinking beer in the dugout won’t be on a team playing kickball in superhero outfits.
10. You put on the sober event
    1. You can control the situation and who comes
11. Not travel
    1. I have made lasting relationships with people while traveling but the problem is, they don’t live in my hometown. The focus is to meet people who live in your hometown.